When we have a healthy sense of our worth, we will see areas of our lives steadily improve, including our physical and mental health, our jobs, our relationships, and our financial standing.
How is that possible?!
Studies show that confident people who know their worth are happier and more successful than those with low self esteem.
So, if your circumstances and happiness level could use some adjustments and if you’d like to be experiencing just a little more awesome-sauce and a little less drab-sauce, then let’s dive into 3 tips to get you started!
Stop comparing
Have you ever heard the saying, “compare and despair?”
Well, there’s a heap load of truth to that no matter which direction we try to use it.
When we compare ourselves to others, whether we come out on top (“At least I didn’t stutter through my speech like that guy!”) or feeling worse about ourselves (“Crap. He really nailed that speech and mine was lame.”), we are still using labels and judgment to assess worth.
SUCH a drag!
Part of knowing our worth is refusing to get sucked into the delusion that it can be increased or diminished based on what someone else is doing, getting, having, achieving, etc.
Turn insecurity on its head
This one is what I used in my own journey to cross the bridge from “I am always too much and yet never enough at the same time and no one will ever truly be able to love me, blah, blah, blah” to “Eh. I guess I’m alright.”
Although that may not seem like much of a jump, it sparked momentum that has changed both my inner world (thoughts and emotions) and outer world (experience of life and happiness level).
And I’ve seen it work the same way in my clients’ lives.
So, if you are someone who doubts your worth and constantly finds yourself lacking, then let me ask you this:
Can you agree with the logic that all humans have inherent worth?
Do human beings deserve love, safety, and belonging?
If you answered with a yes, then you are sorta obligated to include yourself in that.
I would tell myself, “I am not special enough to be the ONLY exception to the rule that every human has the same innate value.”
While it’s not the ideal mantra, it was one of the first somewhat positive things I started saying to myself, and it decreased my resistance to the idea that I was worthy of love and respect.
So, try to find your version of this!
You don’t need to defend your worth
Knowing our worth obviously doesn’t look like being in a desperate state of striving, obsessing over every mistake.
And it ain’t about spending all our time thinking about how awesome we are either.
It’s really spending as little time as possible thinking about either of these things because you know NOTHING THAT HAPPENS CAN EVER ALTER YOUR WORTH!
Let that one land for a second because it is 100% true 100% of the time.
Your worth is a fixed variable.
You are worth exactly as much as everyone else on this beautiful earth we all share.
That means nothing negative that happens to you can ever diminish your worth.
And nothing positive that happens will ever increase your worth.
It remains stagnant, fixed, and unchanged no matter what.
Living this truth is the birthplace of confidence, and it will revolutionize your experience of your life if you let it.
Here’s to accepting, acknowledging, and celebrating your worth!
