Sometimes it feels like life is happening to us.
We start out with the best of intentions and then maybe we find ourselves down the road a decade or two later without the level of fulfillment we imagined.
And it is so easy to fall into a blame trap when we end up here!
If this is something you’ve struggled with in the past or are currently struggling with, here’s a perspective shift that’ll have you making moves in no time.
The Blame Game
When life gets heavy and painful, we often turn to blame.
Whether we blame ourselves or someone else, blame is a quick answer to a complicated question.
And it can be a pretty effective short term solution.
Blaming something outside ourselves in particular takes the weight off our shoulders momentarily and reminds us that what’s happening isn’t our fault.
Blame tells us we don’t have to think about it anymore, whatever “it” is!
However, by blaming someone or something else for our circumstances, we deeply entrench ourselves in helplessness.
From this stance, we don’t have the power to control our lives.
Blame is basically just instant gratification that teaches us to live in resistance, always steeling ourselves from the next blow.
BOOOO! That’s zero fun for all parties involved.
So, what’s more effective than blame?
Taking responsibility
Unlike blame which is never helpful regardless of how we use it, there is no downside to taking personal responsibility.
It’s a powerful mindset shift that hands us control over our personal experience of life.
Taking responsibility for what we’re experiencing is the opposite of blaming ourselves or someone else.
Blame says, “things are out of my control” while responsibility says, “things are within my control.”
Responsibility actually gives us power instead of taking it away.
It’s choosing freedom over a preset existence and a shtty destiny.*
Again, take blame out of this completely.
It’s not your fault things didn’t go the way you planned.
It is your responsibility to change your experience if you need to because, quite frankly, you’re the only one who can!
And the cost of doing nothing can be astronomical: A life full of regrets.
So, ask yourself right now: “what would I do if I had no fear?”
Narrow it down to one thing you want to commit to doing differently.
If that one thing feels like it’s not enough, I assure you it is.
This is the beginning of you gaining control over your life and finally experiencing the peace and freedom you’re longing for.
Small hinges swing big doors!
